How to Poop More Freely Around Your Fresh Boyfriend/Girlfriend
You're in a new relationship and it's wonderful. Your heart is aflutter and he/she is all you can think about all day long. You wish you could spend each minute of every day together. Well, almost every minute. Except for bathroom time. How can something so natural seem so awkward?
There may be a handful of people on the planet who aren't bothered by having to "go" around a new significant other but for the most part, in general, most people hate it and have trouble with it...if you know what I mean.
Why is this so hard? Psychotherapist Katherine Schafler in New York has 5 suggestions to help make "going" around someone new a little easier. These also work if you've been in a relationship for years and still have trouble with bathroom time.
Find Some Time to be Alone
If you need privacy to get the job done, you're going to have to figure out how to get some time. If you're having sleepovers, that may mean getting up earlier than your new partner.
Move Your Body
Dance, take a walk, exercise or anything else that gets your body moving will help you to "go". You might even get strategic and drink a cup of coffee or tea at the appropriate time so that things "move" during times you are alone and more at ease.
Take the Edge Off Bathroom Time
You have to be in the bathroom, the moment has hit, but your new partner is around. Oh my gosh, what do you do? You know eventually, this WILL happen to you. Take the edge off the moment. Purchase some of those sprays to put in the toilet. One less thing to worry about, right? Also, if you're a person who doesn't want anyone to hear some of the noises that take place in bathrooms, running the water helps.
Not Going is Backing You Up
There have been people who have died from anxiety over going to the bathroom. Emily Titterington, 16, died from a heart attack after not going to the bathroom for three months. Bathroom phobia is real. Schafler suggests seeing a professional therapist if constipation is disrupting your everyday life.
Get Your Head in the Game
Stop thinking about having to "go" so much. Schafler says sometimes we worry about something so much, our minds take over and we become unable to pull off the task. Sleep for instance, how many times have you worried so much about getting a good night's rest that you don't? Try to get your mind in a good place for a better bathroom potty time experience.
Remember, going to the bathroom is natural. If your newbie breaks up with you because of that, then the future with that person would have been crap anyway.