New Study Finds Men And Women Hate To Be Alone Even If They Have To Settle
Cat’s out of the bag now, men and women can’t stand to be alone and now there is proof!
I just wrote a story on the KTDY website about what I wanted in my own life for 2014 in terms of relationships, and today, there’s a study that suggests I may be on the right track.
The bottom-line is that individuals hate being alone. People who have even been in horrible relationships jump right back into another one. Have we lost our minds or is it a genetic thing? Unfortunately, it’s probably genetics. We are genetically programmed to find a mate so that the human race continues.
However, this new study blows me away. Anything is better than being alone according to the men and women studied. We are willing to settle for below standard relationships, in order to avoid being alone. Maybe we have lost our minds.
A study found fear of being single drives many people to seek out mates who aren’t good fits for them and to stay in relationships even if they’re unhappy.
Stephanie Spielmann, who is a post-doctoral researcher in the University of Toronto’s Department of Psychology, said, “Those with stronger fears about being single are willing to settle for less in their relationships. Sometimes they stay in relationships they aren’t happy in, and sometimes they want to date people who aren’t very good for them. Now we understand that people’s anxieties about being single seem to play a key role in these types of unhealthy relationship behaviors.”
The study was conducted using people of all ages, so we can’t blame age and might even need to rule out maturity. People just hate being lonely. And here’s something to think about, even people who “hookup” are NOT happy. We desire a mate whom we can call ours.
Sure would be nice if we could have commitment but could send them away when we needed space. I guess we are also genetically dis-positioned to want our cake and eat it too.